I Got Flowers Today ... a story about violence against women

I Got Flowers Today

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I got flowers today ...

It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.

We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot if cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today ...

It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.

Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry, because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today ...

It wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day.

Last night he beat me up again and it was much worst than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kid's? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today ...

Today was a very special day!

It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.

Stop Domestic Violence Today!!!

Do Not Tolerate or Live with It !!!!!

Thank you Amber for sharing this poem with me *hugs* The version of the poem that appears on this page apparently differs from the original copyrighted version by P. Kelly.

Note from Sunshine: I grew up in a very physically abusive household. It was not uncommon for my mother to work 8 or more hours every day then come home to a drunk who physically abused her every night. Many times my small fingers would be the ones that dialed "911" as I stood trembling ... listening to her cry out with each blow ... wondering if HE WAS GOING TO KILL MY MOMMY. Even as a grown woman I now can recall those vivid memories wishing there was something more that I could have done ... but I was only a child ... what more could I have done? NOTHING. Every woman has to look deep into her own soul and come to realize that YES you are worthy and NO you do NOT deserve to live this way. We as women have a tendency of thinking we need to validate everything ... it is our nature to PUT UP with a lot and GO WITHOUT just as much if not more.

This is NOT an acceptable way of life! The change starts with YOU !!

Learn to love YOURSELF and always remember that you ARE worthy and that it is far better to be alone than to wish you were!

You CAN and WILL MAKE IT WITHOUT HIM and HIS ABUSE !!

This is NOT a guilt trip ladies ... rather more of a REALITY CHECK !! Please wake up and smell the roses BEFORE you can't anymore!

Do it for your children ... but most of all ... DO IT FOR YOU !!

If you EVER need to "TALK" to someone ...

... PLEASE do not hesitate to EMAIL me!

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your children!

~ forever Sunshine

*hugs & kisses*

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Thank you Angelene for sharing this with us! *hugs*

Angelene is a wonderful and brave lady who's story touched my heart. Please click on the heart to view a page from her site called Abusive Relationships. She offers some very useful advise and information. A definite "must see" page! *hugs*

Always remember to NEVER to look back except to remind yourself that you NEVER want to be there again!

~ Sunshine

Broken Dreams

Author Unknown

As children bring their broken toys with tears for us to mend,

I brought my broken dreams to God because He was my friend.

But then, instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone,

I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own.

At last, I snatched them back and cried, "How can you be so slow?"

"My child," He said, "What could I do? You never did let go."

Thank you to the person who wishes to remain anonymous for sending this poem to me! *hugs*